Expat Life in Thailand, December 2016
“Mindful eating is allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through food selection and preparation by respecting your own inner wisdom.” The Center for Mindful Eating.
What is your relationship with food? PCI Certified Parent Coach® and mindfulness educator Alessandra Rodel Marazzi talks about applying mindfulness to our everyday eating experience.
Bambi Magazine, February 2017
Contrary to some people’s belief, optimism and hope are not wishful and unrealistic thinking, Pollyannaish expectations that everything will be good. Optimism and hope inject a sense of possibility in life, they give us the belief that we can change things for the better and the motivation to do so, with a sense of self that remains intact even in the most trying situations. And we all may need a bit of that.
Bambi Magazine, November 2016
A common parental remark is that children need to be disciplined. True, children do need boundaries and limits to form a healthy self-concept. But is equating discipline to punishments and rewards really the only option?
Discipline is often used as a synonym for authoritarian parenting styles and the use of punishments and rewards. But the origin of the word ‘to discipline’ simply means ‘to teach’. So what are the most productive and effective ways of teaching and guiding our children?
Plenty of research in the field of Standard Determination Theory (see Bambi October 2016) connects rewards and punishments in learning environments with poorer school performance and lower self-esteem. The reason I started looking into alternatives to rewards and punishments when I became a mother had nothing to do with psychological research, though. I simply could not buy into the idea that children are intrinsically bad and trying to take advantage of us parents. Ok, I don’t like to depict myself as a victim, but I also believe that, if we are to look at our children as a whole, we’ve got to account for the fact that their thoughts, values, motivations, emotions, needs and intentions are behind their behaviors. Even if we don’t fully understand them.
Bambi Magazine, Bangkok, October 2016
Motivation, as the force that moves us into taking action, is behind everything we create, innovate, decide to learn about, or mobilise others to do.
Threats and bribery as a means to get the kids to listen and obey--been there, done that. Is there any other way? PCI Certified Parent Coach® Alessandra Rodel Marazzi talks about building on children’s natural curiosity and desire to contribute.
WHAT IS MOTIVATION?
Motivation is simply the desire that we have for doing things. It is what moves us into action. And we come to this world with it. A baby’s big eyes are looking at the world as an infinite source of enjoyment and fulfillment. Yes, humans are naturally curious, engaged and self-motivated.
But this may not be the experience we have of the same child a few years later, as we see that child yawning at the back of the classroom or lost in his video games. So what happened? The environment impacts our children’s ability to self-motivate and as parents we do have influence over it. What we do matters.
Expat Life in Thailand, October 2016
PCI Certified Parent Coach® Alessandra Rodel talks about how a better balance in our inner and outer lives supports our every-day parenting.
It is no news that most of us tend to live outside-driven lives. Every day we refine the art of fitting everything in: a job, school drop-offs, kids activities, social engagements, paying bills, conference calls, planning birthday parties and researching the best places to buy organic groceries, 1-0-1 time with our kids and date nights with our partner. This is our life as we do our best to balance work and home. So why are we still stressed?
Bambi Magazine, February 2016
How to transform TV time into an opportunity for developing cognitive, social and emotional skills in young children
IS TV BAD FOR MY KID'S BRAIN?
I think most of us as parents have asked ourselves this question. Even before doing any research, I knew instinctively the answer to this question and I did not like it. Because whether I choose to admit it or not, I have used TV as a baby sitter at times, I have put my kids in front of a movie to be able to check my emails, and I have given an iPad to my children to keep them quiet at the restaurant while I was catching up with a friend. Like probably many of you. Does this make us bad parents? No, it doesn’t. Does this make screen time good for our kids’ brain? I’m afraid, not. But we have options to make it better.